I’m Dr. Heather Violante and I specialize in addiction and recovery (drug and alcohol abuse) and helping individuals obtain sobriety so they can live a rewarding, purposeful, and healthy life. I believe everyone has the power to take control of their own lives and destinies.
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Keep reading to learn about addiction, and how therapy can help you gain independence from substance abuse.
Drug and Alcohol Addiction/Abuse
Are you struggling with addiction? Is your use of drugs or alcohol interfering with your relationships? Do you feel like you can’t live without this behavior (including gambling, using the internet, playing video games) or substance? Have you noticed your physical and emotional health declining? If you are experiencing significant negative consequences because of your choices, and all you can think about is the behavior/substance you’re addicted to, therapy can help you get on the road to recovery. Don’t let your addiction take you away from the people and things you love. Together, we’ll get to the root of the problem so you can stay clean and live a healthy, sober life.
Whether you’ve been sober for years or you are just starting out on your journey towards sobriety, being sober offers many positive rewards. The goal of addiction therapy isn’t just to achieve sobriety or abstinence from substances, but maintaining “emotional sobriety” as well. This means staying healthy by making a complete lifestyle change and achieving your goals in a rational, productive, and healthy way.
One of the most challenging parts about becoming sober is the uncertainty during the transition from active addiction to sobriety. Being sober doesn’t always look like roses and rainbows. It’s important to know that you will be faced with challenges and obstacles during recovery. Sobriety is a journey that can be emotionally painful at times, but overall it offers many benefits. Loving life’s joys and learning to cope with challenges by relying on yourself, rather than external validations or substances, is what life and the therapeutic journey are all about. Give yourself permission to be human, to feel, and experience life on life’s terms through practicing acceptance, gratitude, humility, and authenticity. Just keep moving forward as you do your best to handle difficult situations and emotions, practice consistency in healthy decision-making, be mindful of your intentions behind decisions you make, and never be afraid to ask for help. We all doubt ourselves and make mistakes from time to time, but that doesn’t mean we should give up hope or stop striving to become the best version of ourselves. Trust your inner wisdom and embrace the challenges that come with sobriety.
If you are experiencing feelings of overwhelming helplessness and defeat, therapy can help you regain control of your life. Together, we’ll get to the root of the problem and establish coping tools tailored to your needs so you can stay clean and live a healthy, sober life. Counseling will empower you to face life and everything that comes with it through sobriety. You deserve to live a successful, healthy life of your choosing. Therapy is all about providing you with the tools you need to decide what your future holds and to chart your own course.
Coping with a Loved One’s Drug or Alcohol Addiction
Therapy welcomes and supports those who have a loved one with an addiction. If you have a spouse, family member, adult child, or friend who is addicted to drugs or alcohol, it can be difficult for you to handle the emotions that flood your daily life. Do you feel like you can no longer cope with the fact the person you care about is addicted to drugs or alcohol? If you’ve tried everything you can to give that person a better life, but feel like you’re hitting a brick wall, Serenity Lane can help.
Even if you’re not the one struggling with addiction, their addiction can consume you. It’s common for caregivers to lose their own sense of self and not practice self-care because they are so focused on the well-being of the person with the addiction. I’ll help you work on how to be a better support for your loved one without enabling them or losing your own identity. We’ll focus on your self-care, setting healthy boundaries, improving communication, and regaining confidence and self-respect. Whether you come to therapy alone or with your loved one with addiction, counseling can help you be a better caregiver and improve your own emotional independence, communication, and boundaries within the relationship.
Hear Dr. Heather Violante talk about self-care on an episode of the podcast TABOO Talk Time with Dr. Eva: “Putting Yourself First When Caring for Someone with an Addiction“.